Pico Iyer: The trip that changed my life

Bangkok these days seems about as alien and exotic as its sister City of Angels across the ocean. Hollywood cop films are shot there, New York bars open their second branches on its back-streets and for many a kid just out of college in Seattle, the Khao San Road is as natural a first stop as once the Left Bank was, or North Beach. But in 1983, Thailand still seemed the far side of the universe. And to a boy of 26 who was spending his life in a little room in Rockefeller Center in New York, writing about places he’d never seen, it was an instant initiation into mystery and night-time and the limits of all the things he was so sure he knew.

Men came up to me outside the airport — and it was a dumpy airport then, worthy of an almost forgotten country — brandishing pictures of women in bikinis and rooms whose beds seemed to move like the heavens (now those pictures would be much more graphic — and available to a certain kind of visitor before he’d left home, on the Net). There was a smell of jasmine — of spices and gasoline and all of them mixed together — as I headed off in the dusk and clambered into a minivan for the long, long ride into the city. I’d never really set foot in a five-star hotel before when I deposited my luggage with a towering Sikh doorman at the Oriental Hotel and set off into the dark.

The neon was flashing evilly, and irresistibly then. A young woman was stringing her thin arms around me and cooing things in the universal language of desire (for what I represented, if not for me). A Filipino man in the basement of a four-star hotel was singing Grateful Dead ditties on request. No one had heard of Patpong then, or told me that the most alluring women in the street were men.The sound all night — I couldn’t sleep — of slamming doors and soft feet pattering down the (no-star) corridors. Calls at 1 a.m. from strangers with their coos again, sure that I was the only man for them. The tang of mint in every dish, and tall, cool glasses of watermelon juice that I couldn’t have described the day (the life) before in midtown Manhattan.

A Canadian took me under his wing, a wise old hand at 23, and already well on his way to becoming a part of the nether world that was the real world in the Bangkok night, ready to claim every unmoored newcomer. A train was about to set off for the cool spaces of the north. At night, when the tuk-tuk drivers revved up along the jampacked lanes, the smell of diesel and perfume intermingled, I found myself in alleyways where old-style neon blinked and relayed the promises of Suzy Wong.

It wasn’t Thailand, of course, that was beckoning me, but all the force of the things I couldn’t make out. Night was day and late September was summer and men were women who became men again at dawn. The characters around me on the signs (the streets) were strange, and the language so tonal I couldn’t tell a player from a prayer. There were mirrors everywhere, in bars, hotels and what they gave me back to me was a figure I couldn’t recognize. I hadn’t realized ’til that day that you travel to stumble into the unvisited corners of yourself.

I hadn’t realized ’til that day that you travel to stumble into the unvisited corners of yourself.

In Chiang Mai, two days later, I was walking — puffing, really — up a hill, through a landscape from the Vietnam I’d seen only on telecasts, and sitting in a circle in a village, opium in the air. The villagers were dancing, by the light of a candle, and I couldn’t tell if it was the dog they had just eaten or the drugs. Displacement in time had become displacement in space: nights in a hut, a German’s pupils all red, and then dawn with the sound of a rooster, and the preparations of a village anywhere nearby.

The next thing I knew I was in Burma — the rickety grandfather of the England I’d grown up in (a colonial son, of course, becomes master of the house as soon as his father moves on), sailing on Inle Lake, among opium warlords and guerrillas, wandering, dazed, among the 3000 temples of Pagan. A few days later I was in Hong Kong, on expenses (I hadn’t known the meaning of the word in grad school the year before), being entertained at a banquet by the Chinese billionaire who’d built Macao. The next day I was in Narita Airport near Tokyo, waiting for a plane back, and, stumbling into a temple in the little town near the terminal, coming upon an October scene — bright blue skies and a chill of autumn in the air — that told me that I should return to Japan, as I did, for life, it seems.

I’d traveled around India as a teenager, witnessing with a foreigner’s bewilderment a country that was meant to be, and clearly was not, my own. I’d spent two summers traipsing around Europe writing Let’s Go guidebooks, convinced that I was a doctoral student in foreignness and movement. I liked to think myself a man of the world in those days, the prerogative of innocence being that it cannot see to the limits of its knowledge. When young, we know we know it all, and never imagine that the stock of knowledge will only diminish, trickle out, as the years go on.

But Thailand, and all that followed, silenced me. I sat in a colleague’s house in an October downpour, the torrential rains turning the little soi into a running river (people rolling their trousers up to their knees to get across), and tapped out an article on, of all things, Vita Sackville-West, the sometime lover of Virginia Woolf. I’d taken the artifacts of Bloomsbury into the hills with me, and read them among the animists and the opium. Perhaps I was trying to hang onto the life I knew, measuring out the fluent cadences of Sissinghurst here in the wilderness off Sukhumvit.

A bowing secretary came into the room with a pot of tea (my colleague was in Vietnam). The garden in front of me was turning into a misty, tumultuous scene worthy of Maugham. The house my colleague lived in, the life he’d made for himself (a veteran of the war) was more spacious and extravagant than anything his or my bosses could contemplate in Westchester.

What you don’t know, will never know, will always be more involving than what you can explain: it is the fundamental principle of love and of religion.

I came back, after a fashion, from that trip, but it derailed me for good, and showed me the lure of the dark that lay outside the boxed room in which I wrote. What you don’t know, will never know, will always be more involving than what you can explain: it is the fundamental principle of love and of religion. And love and religion were some of what I thought about as I sat in the Time-Life library, paging through any report I could find of Burma, of Thailand, of Laos even, and Cambodia, where I’d never been. In the midst of the traffic outside my eleventh-floor apartment came the sound of something else, more haunting and fragile: a pipe across the fields, a new day in a very ancient place.

Romantic it sounds now, in the recollection. But it wasn’t a romance, because I went back to check on it six months later, and then returned again five months after that, and then took a six-month leave of absence to get thoroughly lost in Asia. I should have known, as I disappeared into Eighth Street, in search of Thai food, the pictures of the pagodas and jungles I’d seen enlarged and set on my office wall, that this was not mere flirtation. I hadn’t come back at all, and never would. The trips that change our lives are the ones where nothing specific happens, and one can remember, 27 years later, every day from September 23rd to October 23rd, 1983.

Pico Iyer has visited Thailand more than 40 times since his initial trip, but something of the mystery is still there for him. His most recent book is The Open Road: The Global Journey of the Fourteenth Dalai Lama.

[Photos: Flickr | Elisa*; Travlinman43; Irene2005]

No guidebook required: the joys of ditching an itinerary

Itineraries and guidebooks can be both a blessing and a curse, when it comes to travel. If you’re the free-spirited, adventurous sort, it sucks to lug a book around, but it’s a good idea-especially if you’re a woman-so you don’t have to leave accommodations to chance should you arrive late at night in a strange town.

I once ended up sleeping in a spider-infested trailer, after spontaneously arriving in a downpour in a Tuscan hill town devoid of rooms for rent. After politely declining the hostal owner’s offer of sharing a bed, I paid ten euros for the trailer, and spent a long, twitchy night imagining things (including the owner) crawling up my legs. Now, I book ahead if I think I may end up stranded.

If you’re a little on the Type-A side, or traveling with someone, a planned itinerary can be helpful, if not relationship-saving. But what happens when you decide to just wing it? Journalist Catherine Price, a contributor to O, the Oprah magazine, recently found out, on a four-day impulse trip to Tokyo. Price decided to let strangers plan every detail of the trip for her, starting with taking the suggestion of a random woman in a San Francisco book store to visit Tokyo. The resulting trip enabled former micro-manager Price to “experience the joy of letting go.” Read more about her fascinating experience.

[Via CNN]
[Photo credit: Flickr user Jaymis]

Finding the expat community and what travelers can learn from them

No matter how well-traveled you are, moving to a foreign country and living as an expat is a whole new ballgame. Your priorities and standards change, and hours that you may have spent as a traveler in a museum or wandering a beach are now spent in as an expat search of an alarm clock or trying to distinguish between eight types of yogurt. You become like a child again: unable to speak in complete sentences, easily confused and lost, and constantly asking questions.

Enter the experienced expats who can help navigate visa issues, teach you dirty words in foreign languages, and tell you where to buy pork in a Muslim country. Finding the local expat community is not about refusing to integrate or assimilate in your new country, but rather meeting a group of like-minded people who understand what you are going through and can provide a bridge to the local community and culture.

So what can the traveler learn from an expat? How about where to buy souvenirs that are actually made nearby and well priced, restaurants not mentioned in any guidebooks, bizarre-but-true stories behind local places and rituals, and inside perspectives on community news and events? And those are just the Istanbul bloggers.

Read on for tips on finding the blogs and a few of the must-reads for travelers.Where to find the expats:

  • Expat forums such as ExpatFocus, InterNations, and Expat Blog are good starting points for finding and connecting with expats, though some forums may be more active than others.
  • Local English-language publications: Many big cities have a Time Out magazine in English and local language, often with frequently-updated blogs or links to other sites. In Istanbul, the newspaper Today’s Zaman has an “expat zone” full of useful articles.
  • Guidebook writers are often current or former expats, so if you read a helpful guide or travel article, it’s worth a Google search to find if they have a blog or Twitter account.

Some stellar expat bloggers around the globe:

  • Carpetblogger: sarcastic, insightful blogger based in Istanbul but with lots of coverage on Central Asia, the Caucasus, and Indonesia. Stand-out post: expat guide to duty free shopping.
  • Miss Expatria: prolific writer and instantly-loveable American in Rome, a joy to read even if you have no plans to visit Italy, but you might find yourself buying tickets after reading about her life. Stand-out post: Italian idioms.
  • CNNGo: great round-up of finds in Asia from Bangkok to Tokyo with everything from restaurant reviews to a look at Tokyo’s elevator ladies. Stand-out post: Japan’s oddest vending machines, a favorite topic of Mike Barish, who has chronicled some of the vending machine beverages for your reading pleasure..
  • Bermuda Shorts: Enviable (and crushworthy, too) travel writer David LaHuta covers all the goings-on in Bermuda and all things Dark n Stormy-related. Stand-out post: name suggestions for new Indiana Jones movie set in Bermuda Triangle.
  • Fly Brother: Series of funny and poignant misadventures in Brazil and around the world from the African American perspective. Stand-out post: how an afternoon of seemingly simple errands can take up to seven hours.

The next time you plan a trip abroad, consider reaching out to a fellow American (or Canadian, Brit, etc.) for some advice or even a coffee meeting (assuming you aren’t a total psycho). I, for one, am happy to offer Istanbul tips and tricks, and I’d be even more amenable to helping a traveler who comes bearing Boar’s Head bacon.

Any expat blogs you follow or travel tips you’ve learned from them? Expat bloggers want to share your websites and your insights for travelers? Leave a note in the comments below.

Blogger Meg Nesterov


Where was your photo taken: On a plane bound for Tokyo from JFK, taken to join the elite ranks of Heather Poole’s laviators.

Where do you live now: Istanbul, Turkey. I arrived here in May to accompany my husband who is consulting on a project with Turkish company. We will eventually return home to Brooklyn, New York, where we can be found sampling the city’s many all-you-can-drink brunch specials and planning our next trip.

Scariest airline flown: Like Alex Robertson Textor, I’d have to go with La Costeña in Nicaragua to the Corn Islands. It feels like you are flying on an unwieldy bicycle, and when a fellow passenger noted that one of the controls was not working, the pilot remarked, “Oh, I don’t use that, it’s turned off!” They do serve cookies and Fanta, so not wholly unpleasant.

Favorite city/country/place: Lake Winnipesaukee, New Hampshire. After spending many childhood summers on the lake, I honeymooned there for a glorious week with my husband barbecuing, playing cards, and hiking through the woods with my grandfather.Most remote corner of the globe visited: Pisco Elqui, Chile. The town is named after the country’s favorite liquor, in an effort to reinforce Chile’s claim to Pisco over Peru. A perfect place to stargaze and think about climbing the Andes, maybe after another Pisco Sour.

Favorite guidebook series: I try to go with whatever has been most recently updated, but I like that Frommer’s guides generally have an actual, personal voice and all of their content is online.

Favorite travel author: Hard to choose just one, but I loved the books of Pete McCarthy: great insights to places and almost embarrassingly funny. McCarthy’s Bar is spot-on about travel in Ireland and the sequel, Road to McCarthy, travels everywhere from Morocco to the Caribbean. He sadly passed away a few years ago, but I still think of some passages of his books and laugh out loud.

Dream travel destination
: Playing Where in the World is Carmen San Diego? made me intrigued with Sri Lanka. I imagine days full of visits to remote temples and lying in hammocks on the beach, and nights spent in grizzled expat bars being served gin and tonics by a bartender with an eyepatch. And catching an international jewel thief, of course.

Worst place to catch a stomach bug?
An airplane. I was once suddenly ill on a London to New York flight and I can’t think of much worse than being on your hands and knees in an airplane bathroom, then returning to a middle seat.

When I’m not writing for Gadling, I’m…working remotely as a publicist for a travel PR agency in New York, handling media relations for several tour operators and hotels, and acting as “social media curator,” finding content for our Facebook page, Twitter, and eventually, blog. In Istanbul, I can be found looking for ways to escape the summer heat, playing tour guide to my visiting friends (six so far, including the inimitable Mike Barish), and bumbling my Turkish all over town.

Letter from Kamakura (or, how London and Japan are the same but different)

I’ve never been in Asia before, and right now I’m standing at the very front of a train, riding from Tokyo’s Narita airport towards the first Japanese city I’ve ever visited, Kamakura. There’s a window straight into the driver’s cabin, and through his windshield down the track ahead, where the rails gleam in the murk of late afternoon in November. It feels good to be up at the front, watching out for approaching points, guessing whether we’ll switch tracks, enjoying the sense of the whole pristine Japanese train following us, as the carriages articulate themselves through the junctions.

In the distance off to one side, dense clumps of office blocks move past, their heads lost in low cloud, all their windows glowing distantly like columns of light in the rain. Street lamps are already lit, each one weaving a small web of light in the fabric of mist. It all looks like the London suburbs. Then we leave the urban sprawl, and rattle through clean and tidy commuter towns, with tall garden fences visible from the height of our track, and level crossings where dutiful lines of small cars wait for their chance to cross. We pass farms of grey fields, and copses of deciduous woodland climbing small hills, grey in the drizzle. It all looks like England, my homeland.

Some places are unspeakably exotic to Western ears, yet disappointingly normal to Western eyes. I remember reading an account of a traveler arriving in Lima, Peru, by ship, only to find fog overhanging the whole shore, and the desert grey and drab. There weren’t even palm trees. Altogether, the deliciously exotic sound of the names – Lima, Callao, Peru – was nothing like the reality.

Something akin happens to me here in Japan. In many ways it feels disconcertingly familiar, like a doppelganger of England out in the Far East – another maritime island nation, rainy, a former imperial power, with a large industrial economy, and traditions going back to the Middle Ages, and an antiquated social system, and elaborate etiquette, and an obsessive fondness for tea. Like England, it seems built up with many small two-story houses, and full of small cars, and narrow roads, and tidy gardens. People even drive on the left.

But the way the train guard checks my ticket is anything but familiar.He bows to me, takes my ticket in two white-gloved hands, bows to it, hands it back, smiles, and bows to me once more. Apparently all is in order. What can I do but bow in return?

In Kamakura I put up in a hotel near the station, a large European house from the turn of the twentieth century, built during the Western-oriented days of the Empire. Even this was just a bit disappointing. It looked and felt so like England I even started wondering why I had come at all.

But the first morning, I borrowed a bicycle from a friend of a friend (as it happens, the preferred means of transport in my hometown, Oxford), and gradually Kamakura started to reveal its treasures. First, not tea, oddly, but the coffee. Coffee is treated here with the kind of reverence usually reserved for scientific experiments. The first coffee shop I stop by is so small I can barely move once I’m installed behind one of the tiny antique tables. It has a genteel atmosphere – little cloths on the table tops, tiny vases with a single flower each, some smoky jazz from the Forties playing softly, and only two other customers politely sipping from their cups.

When I walked in, I didn’t know what kind of establishment it was. A diaphanous strip of curtain hung over the open doorway, and a series of characters had been painted on a board beside it, unintelligible to a non-speaker like me. But I brushed through anyway, feeling the need of a little refuge from the strange familiarity of the streets. Once I was seated, I hardly dared breathe in case I knocked something over. And when the coffee came – a rich café au lait – it was so perfect, so fragrant and just the right strength, it was almost too good to drink.

As in Oxford, here too there are many lanes and narrow roads dating from ancient times. I cycle down them, past many other cyclists and pedestrians, past the ubiquitous small cars, exploring. I find myself arriving at small groves of bamboo, and mossy cliffs rising unexpectedly among the houses, and at golden Buddhas glowing in darkened shrine-rooms beneath huge oak beams, and at the foot of the Daibutsu, a giant old Buddha made of greying bronze who sits with his back slightly hunched, while Japanese tourists queue up to walk inside him; and at the home of the thirty-foot high statue of Kannon Hasadera, goddess of Mercy, the Japanese Mary, bathed in the shifting light of a thousand candles, the atmosphere around her fragrant with wax and incense. I stop for a big bowl of buckwheat noodles that I slurp down with chopsticks and a deep spoon, and for many small cups of tea.

Kamakura was the mediaeval capital during the Shogunate of the 1200’s and 1300’s, and like Kyoto, has many glorious old temples. It’s the temples I’m really here for, and for the Zen. The Zen lineage in which I myself have been studying for a number of years has its headquarters here in Kamakura, in a small zendo with tatami floors – a zendo which over the past half century has been responsible for spreading more Zen to the West than perhaps any other zendo in the world. Square foot per square urban mile, the ratio is impressive.

When I first enter this silent, peaceful room, I realise that this is exactly why I have come – to sit still on the floor in the golden silence of my lineage’s home. It’s a small room, and could hold 40 people on their cushions at most. Yet the Roshi’s Yasutani, Yamada and Maezumi all sat and studied here, who between them brought the West much of its available zen training. My own teachers sat here. At one end of the room, I light incense on the crowded altar, cluttered with photographs, candles, incense burners, and various statues of Buddha in different forms. Then I make my bows of gratitude.

Fifty years ago, Zen was as exotic as anything. But zen is the study of human nature. Can it really be so exotic anywhere? Now that I have come to the fount – or the conduit – of the river of teaching that has flowed into my life, somehow it’s not surprising that it doesn’t seem exotic at all. It just seems beautiful.

To walk into the quiet, still atmosphere among the wooden buildings of an old temple is like suddenly becoming a carp in a carp pond. One’s very breath slows down. One walks slower. Most of Kamakura’s famous temples – Kochoji, Engakuji, Hojoji – are built in clefts in the wooded hills that encircle the middle of town, and stand deep in the green shade of enormous trees. The quiet here is strangely submarine, with the sunlight filtering through the canopy of trees. Beyond, cemeteries reach up into folds in the hillsides, studded with moss-covered boulders and narrow tombstones.

In some, shrine rooms are left open, and it’s possible to sit quietly on their tatami floors while trails of incense smoke rise up in front of massive bronze Buddhas seated up on a dais in the partial gloom.

There’s a sense of order here that is not the maniacal cleanliness one associates with zen; rather, a natural human tidiness. Even the gravel gardens that some temples have are browned by recent rain, strewn with fallen leaves – far from the obsessively raked affairs familiar from famous images. Altogether, the wooden complexes with their ornate, flaring eaves, their many trees, and the stone paths threading over their damp soil, give the impression of well-tended mountain villages – tidy but with a lived-in feel.

One of the dangers of an imported religion, such as Zen Buddhism in the West, is an over-zealous pursuing of the forms of the new faith. Here, one senses that the generations of Zen practitioners have rubbed off the sharp corners, giving its campuses the feel of rounded river-stones. Each time I leave a temple on my bicycle, I find myself moving at a slow, fulfilled pace, turning the pedals gently as I cruise down alleys towards the next temple.

One evening, I cycle to an “Okonomakiyaki House” – a restaurant of several low-ceilinged rooms, where each floor-level table has an iron burner in the middle, on which diners prepare their own okonomakiyaki – a kind of cross between a pizza and an omelette, with all kinds of ingredients poured into the sputtering mix on the griddle. A family at the next table helps me out, showing me how to do it, and we raise our glasses of beer to one another.

England has nothing quite like this. Yet rain is tapping against the window, and the low-beamed chain of rooms reminds me of a medieval pub in Oxford. My borrowed bicycle is waiting outside, its saddle growing damp. I check my pocket – reflex of decades of rainy Oxford living – and find I do have a handkerchief on me for wiping it down later.

I could hardly be further from that other rain-soaked, post-imperial island where I grew up. Yet once again it feels just like home. Just like it, yet utterly different.

The next day I walk in the small wooded hills that surround the center of the city, visiting various shrines. Implausibly, the worn paths among the trees remind me of the park where I used to go for Sunday afternoon strolls with my family as a child, under overcast English skies. I’m half expecting to find conkers on the ground – the gleaming chestnut treasures of my youth.

Many of the first western Zen pioneers were English. Jiyu Kennett, Alan Watts, Christmas Humphreys, all started exploring and spreading Asian religion before most American pioneers. Yet zen has been slower to take root in England than in America. In the old country it has to contend with staunch Anglo-Saxon empiricism, and with the entrenched values of a culture proud of its traditions. Yet there’s a history of contemplative practice in England that goes back to the 1300’s – an age comparable to the first flowering of zen in Japan.

Somehow it’s weirdly reassuring to find this place so familiar, in spite of its strangeness, as if confirming that the alien path I have chosen is in the end not so alien. After all, wherever we go on this globe, we tend to find much the same things: trees, hills, and that most lambent treasure of all, the human heart. When I board my train back to the airport, it’s with a sense of being at home wherever I go. As Hakuin Zenji said in the 1700’s, “Coming and going, we are never elsewhere.” Or, in the words of a contemporary western Buddhist: “Wherever you go, there are you.”

[Photos: Flickr | d’n’c; Guwashi999; InfiniteSites; OiMax; kalandrakas]